It's easy to accuse someone of showing "fake love" - affection not genuine, or rooted in real admiration, respect or .....love. Fake love gives the impression "as-if" someone is interested in the person or the subject matter. Maybe you've been accused of "showing fake love". Maybe, just maybe you HAVE been fake. You can be offended by it, take it personally and shut more of yourself off or you can say to yourself that this is your opportunity to dig deeper.
How so you say?
Well, we can deepen our understanding of love and expand it beyond the place it resides today. Love, especially unconditional love, is something foreign to us. Let's face it. We have been programmed to judge first. With our parents, we fear we will not be loved if we live our truths so we hide away parts of ourselves. We've also been programmed to believe that our judgments are KING and should not be questioned. Viewing others through the extended filter of our own personal experience, as well and we dismiss the grand majority of things we may come across in a day. "You already know that will taste bad." " You already know that she is mean." "You already know you won't like to do that" - so you don't try. "You already know you won't like her." "You already know they are not smart." You get the idea.
These judgements block us from expanding our individual experience and further those experiences of our communities because "like tends to stay with like". Remember "we already know." This, therefore blocks our growth of the only thing that matters - the growth of our soul. Our views are then limited to that which looks exactly like us, smells like us, IS us - leaving all else unknown. These unknown things tend to make us uncomfortable, bringing fear and we all know what that can do.
So what then?
We love more. We seek out an adventure everyday. Each day, we resolve to try something new - be it a new food, listening to a song in a genre you have never listened to before, trying a new activity, introducing yourself to someone you have wanted to but didn't think they were approachable - whatever it is and however small, do something every single day that is NEW. We just might find you like a lot more than you think. We might actually find a lot of new joy and if anything else, this exploration will help us get to know ourselves.
And maybe then we'll realise that the fake love was actually real love all along. It was just blocked. Let's free ourselves.