A Practice for when you Feel Powerless

We have been taught from a very young age that we have to have it all figured out. That we have to have a plan and hustle to make it happen. That we have to know all the things, all the risks, all of the maybes and do our best to get around them. But in these last few years - having a plan and sticking to it has not been the easiest thing to do when everyday feels like it's the newest day ever. It feels easier to disconnect, to not care anymore. To let apathy take over and just go with whatever happens.
Many of my clients are in this place.
They lost their ability to give a F#$%.
They lost their motivation.
They lost their compass.
They just got lost in all of what has been weighing most of us down.

Powerlessness.
This feeling that no matter what we do or how we do it, it will not matter because we feel powerless to the world around us.

In these moments, what if we are being asked to really look at where we have given our power away to others. To the media? To gossip mongers? To what?

It has been eye opening to see that the common thread amongst my clients is that they gave their power away to other people's opinions. To other people's perceptions. To managing the expectations of those perceptions. And not even to the reality of the situation but rather gathered data from past interactions that are then used to inform the internal risk manager that they need to alter themselves somehow for self preservation (mental, emotional or physical). Instead of speaking up, they get quiet for fear of being judged. Instead of leaning into what they love, they hide it for fear of ridicule from someone else. Instead of jumping into their heart's desire, they freeze.

So how do we shift this?
Self-awareness and an unapologetic commitment to self-love is a beautiful place to start.

#motivation Here is a practice I encourage:
In the evening when you are in bed, head on pillow, begin to notice how you feel about your day. Satisfied? Frustrated? Upset? Ask yourself how did I show up for myself today? How did I shrink myself today? And for what? Lovingly, speak with yourself and over time notice how the relationship you are building with yourself begins to inform how you move in other areas of your life.

You are worthy of your own time and attention.

xx
#power #selflove #selfcare #leadershipbeginsinthemirror