When You're Comfortable in the Struggle

It’s easy to remain in the struggle because it is easy to get comfortable in the struggle.

What do I mean?

When you know how to hustle just enough to get what you need and maybe even a little bit of what you want, you can then rest in the discomfort of being comfortable right where you are. You will complain about it, rage about it, cry about it but never do anything to change it. You will tell other people and yourself that you tried and nothing worked out and leave it at that. You will surround yourself with others just like you to join in on the chorus of your struggle song. You will do everything in your power to stay exactly where you are because then you can rest there and never turn the blame of your situation on yourself. You can rest in the idea that your problems are always someone else’s fault and outside of your control - instead of reaching for something else and maybe failing at it and then you would blame yourself for even trying.

It is this fear that has stopped us all at some point. The fear of the unknown. The fear of failing. Because if we stay right where we are - we KNOW exactly what to do to scape by. But then we invite in other feelings and emotions to take up residency within us. We can become jealous of the people who do try, spewing our own hatred and sense of toxicity towards them to ensure they fail so you can still be proven right that trying is for dummies. We can become envious of what others have that we cannot obtain in this current struggle mindset. We can cast spells upon ourselves of continued lack and an impoverished mindset to keep us entwined in the struggle.

I was once very comfortable in the struggle I had dwelled within, complaining about it every single day for years yet doing nothing to change what had me so bothered. I was envious and jealous of others who had more than I did, coveting and low key hating on them for even having anything. I was in pain and fearful of change. Afraid to step out of my comfort zone and into the unknown for fear of even more failure. I hated myself and I only wanted to be around other people who hated themselves too. Until one day, an opportunity came along that sparked a fire in my heart that I could not pass up. I had to get over whatever glitch in my mindset was holding me back. My inner critic cursed me out many times. I cried big tears. I journaled each and every one of my fears and addressed them one by one of how I could combat it, love it, appease it, get around it. Eventually, I just went for it and never looked back. I did it shaking, scared and alone. I cried myself into oblivion afterwards, partly from happiness and partly from the adrenaline crash. I knew then that I had to find something else to do that scared me and do it immediately. And I did, over and over again until a year later, my life was unrecognizable.

And you have the power within you to do this too. We all do. We just have to want the change(s) so bad that we are willing to move past our blocks to get to them.

I believe in you. You don’t have to stay in the space of lack and depression. You can move through it and into a reality greater than your wildest dreams.

Find something that sparks joy and or fire in your heart and go for it. The rinse and repeat.

You can and you will.

I love you!

xx